Wednesday, March 23, 2011

All Work and No Play

I'm a working mom, a full-time working away from my babies, mom.

It started as an essential.  I have the degree which should mean a head up on jobs and a better salary.  I have always worked for my family, to provide them with the best life possible.  Working is no longer an essential for me since my husband has been blessed with a great job, but working provides the best possible future for my children and less stress in our lives.

Working does add stress in other ways.  It's harder for me to make friends, and since we choose to pay a sitter to watch our children instead of daycare, it's harder for them to make friends as well.

So, one of the first things I did when we moved here was find a Mommy's group for playdates.  I found what seemed to be a wonderful group, stating in their description opportunities for stay-at-home moms and working moms alike.

Except they lied.  I'm sure they lied without meaning too, but maybe it never occured to them that someone who works 5 days a week, 8-4:30, would still want to do play groups, and stroller walks, and picnic lunches, and all the things that make a moms group great.  I say it has never occured to them because they never schedule events on Saturdays.  Ever.

The only event on the weekends are the 'new Mommy meetups' to enter the group.

I'm just frustrated with it.  I just want to go on a stroller walk on a Saturday morning (they have them during the week) or go to a park with another mommy.  I want Leah and Audrey to make friends, and maybe then I can have someone to talk with as well.

I don't know how to go about it though.  I don't want to stay in a group that pulled me in with false advertisments (oh and I've mentioned adding weekend events to them and still nothing).  Leah starts school in August ... should I just suck it up until then?

But wouldn't it be nice to have a community where working moms feel included as well as stay or work at home moms? 

Am I just complaining?  perhaps, but where else can I complain than here...


  1. Maybe you should START a group? Seems like you can't be the only one with that frustration. Good luck!

  2. i agree with Beth start your own group or you can drive an hour and a half & come to the park with me and bailey haha :)

  3. I stayed home with my daughter and wouldn't have gone to a playgroup on a Saturday. That was our time to be together as a family and I didn't want to be off doing something without my husband. He wouldn't have gone to a playgroup. I think it's a sticky scheduling issue. I think you'd be best off to just hit the playground on a weekend and hope to meet people that are in a similar situation. It's an awful lot like dating, but you just have to walk up to some moms and exchange phone numbers.


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